Caterpillar Contemplations

"What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly." Lao Tzu

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Letting Go

My second #blogjune challenge topic is “Letting Go” – ever since I got the topic that damn song has been playing in my head.  You know the one, but just in case it doesn’t leap to mind I won’t mentioned it until the end … so at the very least you can read my blog without it distracting you.

From the moment you go into labor, motherhood is all letting go!

A woman from the breastfeeding association (ABA) mentioned that … I don’t know if she got it from somewhere or made it up herself. It has been true for me as a mother … but also as a teacher, as a writer, as a collaborator and as someone who has encountered grief.  The act of letting go is a skill that needs to be developed like cooking or public speaking.  It is a skill that I have learnt through necessity more so than through active application but, now that I am aware of it, I have strategies in place to assist with the process.

So often I feel overly invested in what I do, or an idea that I have, or a piece of literature that I’m working with a student – I’m so invested that I forget to relinquish control and allow others to take over or assist.  However, when I do let go, I often notice that the creative process improves and accelerates.  I release the stress of having to get it right on my own, of having to produce something that is sensational.  It gives me permission to play and workshop and even scrap ideas completely – which is very empowering.

I have found that acknowledging what is important to me has assisted with letting go of extra work or responsibilities that impinge on the time that I have with my family and friends.  I revisit this thought process frequently for many reasons – but in relation to letting go I think it is fitting to mention that sometimes a major creative project, although beneficial for furthering my skill set, may not be beneficial for my relationships or my own need for time and space. I’m learning that it is okay for me to instigate an idea, or be a driving force and then, hand over the reins.

I find ‘relaxing’ difficult … letting go of the things that need to be done, the planning that needs to happen for life to be okay … so … I procrastinate and distract myself rather than giving myself the space to ‘let go’.  It’s something I’d like to work on …

I realise I’ve addressed the topic of ‘letting go’ quite broadly … but I couldn’t really settle on one area of interest.  Although I DID consider doing a review of Frozen, for which the song “Let it go” has made unduly famous. I decided to go with a less inflammatory path (I told my 8 – 10 year old musical theatre kids that I didn’t like the movie and boy was I unpopular). I wonder what my sister’s topic will be for me tomorrow … I’m actually quite excited.  Her topic for today is “Time for Tea”.

Enough about me though, I’m curious:

How do you let go?